What is Love?

Valentine’s Day has come and gone, but the pursuit of love goes on.

Every person I meet, both professionally and personally, thinks of love as a necessary thing to have, along with food, clothing and shelter.

The question of how to find, keep and let go of love has been the mainstay of my work as an intuitive advisor.  Through my service to my clients, I’ve learned invaluable truths about love, about what it isn’t and what it is.

First, love is not a feeling.

Many people make life altering choices based on a warm sensation they experience when they are around someone they are attracted to.  Love feels good because it is life affirming.  It doesn’t mean, however, that a good feeling about something indicates true love.

Second, love is not attachment.

People often confuse love with need.  It is a mistake to make your choices based on how another person feels, thinks and acts.  Giving that much of your personal power over to another can create problems in the long run.

Third, and most importantly, love is not a thing to be owned.

Nowadays, “love” is packaged, tied in a pretty bow and sold based on its value to others.  A person becomes love-worthy based on their beauty, talents and possessions.  The consumer based view of love has reduced its true meaning to materialism.  “Love” can now be possessed, and therefore, controlled.

In contrast, love is a true act of creation. It is based on the daily choice to be loving.  Real love also comes from a recognition of your own power to give. To be loving means to act upon the betterment of another despite the challenges life flings at you.

Love is an energy exchange between two or more beings.  Reciprocal love is truly powerful because it creates a healing and protective sphere on the beings that help make it.  Lovers, husbands, families and friends all have a special mystical quality when they exchange love with each other.  This reciprocity protects and nurture all of us in multidimensional levels.

Finally, love is an art.  Since love is rooted in life itself, being loving is not ruled by the materialistic realities that govern daily living.  Love doesn’t run on a schedule.  It can’t be bought or sold.  It can’t be forced or manipulated out of someone. Love has to be given freely, or it’s not real love.

This is an important realization because it also means that being loving is not dependent upon the decisions of others or outward circumstances. You can choose to love someone even if that person doesn’t love you back.  Once given, the act of love in any form reverberates back to the giver. Giving and receiving love is exclusively an act of one’s spirit, and ultimately leads back to the Universal Truth itself.